Promotional crowdfunding trailer for, NOT IN MY LIFETIME. Pam Colby explores her evolving relationship to the institution of marriage and the impact of gaining the option to legally marry later in life. more at https://pam-colby.squarespace.com.

I began working on this documentary just after marriage equality passed in my state of Minnesota.  The people voted and we won! It was so exciting, but it was also a little bitter sweet, come on, I was in my fifties, and single.  Thus began my quest to explore the impact of marriage equality legislation on myself, and my peers.  

 "When are you getting married?" became the friendly mantra directed at the already partnered. And that is exactly what many have done, loudly and quietly. We got married.

But for other boomers and beyond, freedom from marriage was the hallmark of our gay identity.  And for some lesbians, the feminist teachings of our past continue to taint perceptions of marriage, the institution.  For transgender people, marriage equality legislation allows the collective energy to refocus. Potentially to trans issues where hatred and discrimination continue to run amok.    

I'm exploring all of these intersections.  I'm also taking this historic moment to talk about growing up queer and the messages coming from the radio and television of my childhood.   It's an interesting story of perseverance, acceptance and the freedom to choose, told with grace and humor.

FINANCIAL CONTRIBUTORS

NOT IN MY LIFETIME:

ADAM OLSON

AMY LANGE AND JANE NEWMAN

ANDREA LIEN

ANN FOLLETT AND JEANNE BARKEY

ANNE ARONSON

BARBARA CASE

BARBRA WIENER

BETH HAWKINS

BETH PLAUTZ

BETTY TISEL AND SARAH FARLEY

BRADLEY GREENWALD

CANDACE MARGULIES & ZOE NICHOLIE

CAROL WICHERS

CATHARINE REID

CHUCK OLSON

DAN LUKE

DAWN MIKKELSON

DEB LEAVITT AND DAVID GARDINER

DEBORAH SCHERMANN

DIANE WILEY

DAWN CHARBONNEAU

ELIZABETH FROST AND MARTHA HOTCHKISS

EMILY COLBY

ERICA MAUTER

ERMA SAVAGE

GAYLA ELLIS

GERRY TYRRELL & KEVIN REUTHER

IRENE GREENE

JAMES REICH

JANE POWERS

JANET L BAYLISS

JEAN JOHNSON AND NEAL RITCHIE

JENNI KAHN

JOCI TILSEN

JOHN AKRE

JONI THOME

JYMME GOLDEN

KAREN HASELMANN

KAREN L. COLBY

KATHARINE SIMON-DASTYCH

KATHI RILEY

KATHY HILL

LINDA ALTER-CAPELL

LISA ANN NEBENZAHL

LISA VECOLI

LIZ WELCH

LU LIPPOLD

LYN MITCHELL

MAGGIE KAZEL

MARCIA MEREDITH

MARION BAUER

MARKO ZITZER

MARNIE MILBERT AND ELAINE VOBORIL

MARY DISNEY

MARY HANSON

MARY T JEDDELOH

MARY TURK

MINDY KURZER

MS. APRIL J HUSSONG

PAT TEIKEN

PATTY GILLE

PEGGY TIETJENS

RUTH MARKOWITZ

SADIE GREEN AND LAURA JENSEN

SALLY KUNDERT

SALLY SCHROEDER

SARA LYNN NEWBERGER

SEAN P DIPASQUA

SHAY BERKOWITZ AND PHYLLIS WIENER

SHEILA HESKIN

SHERRY MEEK

STACEY BURNS

STEVEN BYE

SUSAN HOFFMAN AMD NANCY GOSSARD

SUSAN HUNTER WEIR

TAMI SPECTOR

TERESE PRITSCHET

TERRY GYDESEN